In the Beginning...
Thank you to
Patricia Anderson for welcoming us all on to the Zoom Call Thank you to
Terry Beckett for sending along the link each week.
Member wellbeing….
Ron Polito continues to gain back his health after his illness. We all send good wishes for a speedy recovery. Bill Gilbreth always likes a good joke to keep him smiling during his health challenges.
President Michael Scar opened the meeting.
Ren Adam led the Pledge of Allegiance.
Michelle Sherman was introduced as our guest and speaker
Nathan Kaehler gave the Invocation as follows:
Lord, make me an instrument of your peace.
Where there is hatred, let me bring love.
Where there is offense let me bring pardon.
Where there is discord, let me bring union.
Where there is error, let me bring truth.
Where there is doubt, let me bring faith.
Where there is despair, let me bring hope.
Where there is darkness, let me bring light.
Where there is sadness, let me bring joy.
Let me not seek as much to be consoled as to console,
to be understood as to understand
To be loved as to love,
for it is in giving that one receives
it is in self-forgetting that one finds it is in pardoning that one is pardoned
Upcoming Programs
Therese Brown announced our upcoming speakers:
3/5-Rebecca Anderson will be next week’s speaker. She is the director of Lotus Land in Santa Barbara
3/12-Karyl Lynn will speak the following week about the Rubicon Theatre
3/19-Staci Brown with Mothers Against Drunk Drivers
3/26-Club member talk. TBA
Announcements
Kathy Yee from the social committee announced that the online auction that was held on last “fifth Friday” netted $2,000.00. A check was delivered to the Ojai Family Shelter and a video was shown of the director Allie receiving the check as she expressed her gratitude. We were also given a short tour of the shelter.
Janet Campbell from the scholarship committee announced that she had posted an ad in the Ojai Valley News regarding the scholarships that were available through our club.
Cheree announced that she has sent out another question for members to answer.
She particularly enjoyed the previous week's response from Bob Davis.
Rotary Humor
Fining and Confessions: Colin Jones
Pradeep paid a fine for confessing that he skied 63 MPH recently.
Colin Jones peppered us with questions about Wales. The patron saint for Wales is St. David. Saint David's Day is March 1st. Who knew? No one.
The Program:
Michelle Sherman--Being a People Pleaser Can Be Dangerous To Your Health
Michelle Sherman Is a member of Toastmasters, a former lawyer, and current University instructor. She is a faithful Rotary Sunday hiker and rebel walker.
Being a People Pleaser Can Be Dangerous to Your Health. Do you have a people pleaser chip on your shoulder?
Google has 17 million hits and speaks of the perils of this behavior. It can make you more susceptible to being scammed which plays on your good nature. It can make it harder to set healthy boundaries. It can also lead to doing wrong.
She used the example of her own people pleasing mistakes. She over extended in a work situation. She over extended in a yoga class and injured herself. And then there was the mountain hike where she fell from an ice trail when she really wanted to say it was too dangerous. She didn’t want to be a poor sport. Her best advice giver would have been herself.
All of us have the same support system….ourselves. An inner voice that guides us when we listen to a gut feeling or actual voice in your head. Her personal home life growing up gave her the message to take care of herself as early as fifth grade. She knew that she needed to leave home to make something of herself. She listened to her voice when she was about to give a speech in Atlanta and had deep pain in her abdomen. It turned out she went to the hospital just in time to have her appendix taken out and not have a much more difficult surgery.
Though we carry the people pleaser chip around with us, We can say “Let me think about that”. Be transparent and vulnerable with people about why you are saying no. Practice saying no. Listen to your own gut feeling or voice. Being a people pleaser can be dangerous to your health.
No one is perfect, that's why pencils have erasers.
Submitted by Kathy Yee